Meeting someone to date in college is actually extordinarily difficult, here's a breakdown on why:

Yes, this is going to be the most autistic thing you've ever read

"get involved" and "just talk to people" is some of the main advice you'll get when it comes to dating in college, but I argue thats much easier said than done, especially if you're really busy and/or introverted like me, so here's a thurough breakdown of EVERY social situation that I find myself in frequently to infrequently, and why its usually not practicle to meet someone in these situations.

Dorms:

All my dormmates are guys, very cool guys! Im good friends with them.

Around campus (walking/biking to and from places):

Approaching anyone during this time would be very strange, and flat out rude. I know I would be annoyed if someone haulted me to smalltalk while I was on my way to class, to the gym, or going back to my dorm, ect. I also usually bike places because I live far from my classes, so I'm not exactly stopping to smell the roses around campus, im biking.

in class:

Well, im in class, and im not trying to talk to anyone, nobody is, we're listening to lecture, taking notes, ect. All of my classes are large lectures too, no group projects or anything like that. I could hypothetically strike up a conversation as everyones leaving class and walking to go somewhere else, but for the same reasons in the "Around campus (walking/biking to and from places):" section, thats not going to happen.

At the gym:

Absolutely a no-go. Everyone has their earbuds in, and we're there to workout, not to talk. It would be incredibly rude and creepy to interupt somones workout to smalltalk with them because I think they're attractive or whatever. So no. This goes both ways too, I dont like being interupted at the gym, im on the clock.

*Hobby Club: * Casual hobby related club I go to with a friend of mine, people sit around and draw, paint, that kind of stuff. This late into the year people tend to sit with people they know. This one's on me, I could definitely walk up to someone new/ a new group. Even still, this club meets only once a week, so I would have to pick the right bunch and try to get numbers and ask to hang out some other time if things go well.

Hobby Club 2: Less casual club, in this club groups are deligated to work on projects together, I enjoy it. This one is more prommissing as we meet twice a week, though most of the meetings lately have been over discord so its hard to actually meet my group members so far, but I guess i'll see where this goes as we get deeper into the project.

Interest Club: Another casual club, this one related to a subject i'm deeply passionate about. Meetings are very 2 weeks so very infrequent and usually take the form of movie nights, I hope to make a lot of friends though this club because this itnrest is very niche and im excited to find out im not the only one here interested in this kind of stuff. But due to the infrequeny of meetings I have to make the absolute most of them and try to get as many contacts as possible and really get to know everyone here, its pretty small as well.

Competitive Club (powerlifting): This takes the form of carpooling with any random few members of the club to a gym once a week where we work on our deadlifts, squats, and benchpresses. Similar to the gym though there's more of an understanding that we're a single entity so socializing is easier. I could strike up conversations between my sets and sometimes do, but this one's also on me for usually not doing so unless someone comes up to me. Ill try to talk more to the others more often, there's both guys and girls in this club but mostly guys.

Frat: Recently joined a frat one of my dorm friends recomended to me. Most of us share the same STEM major too so I hope to really expand my social circle through this. It's all guys obviously but seems really good for making friends so im optimistic.

*Eating: *

I don't have a meal plan or anything, I cook for myself and eat in my dorm, I dont have access to the dining halls

Social circle:

I don't really have a friend group, Im friends with my dorm mates, and I have a few friends I met from clubs. I have one female friend, all my other friends are male. The one girl I know is a self identified tomboy though, all her friends are guys too. one of my friends does have a girlfriend, he's the only guy I know with one, and I know this girl from being in a dance group with her 2 semesters ago, so I guess I could ask him to ask her to meet her friends, but I don't know that sounds weird and creepy.

*Parties: * Cant really meet someone when the music is so loud I cant even hear myself speaking, i truely despise parties

So, there it is. Even though you're surrounded by people in college, meeting people, and especially meeting a SO is actually really, really difficult. Im starting to form a toxic limiting belief that to do so you need to either be extrodinarily extroverted enough to apporach all the time, or have a robust social circle, in the form of a freind group, with guys AND girls, to meet someone, or to meet someone through friends.

To guys who are similarly frustrated, I hope you feel heard with this.