Feeling invaded by men

Y'all I am in a local "quer group and someone is talking about "loving sapphic-ly" or something? And this person has a big stylised mustache and is in all intents and purposes, a man. Honestly it makes me feel really unsafe because it seems like he is in all the lesbian spaces that are local. I hate it here.

*he is his pronoun even though he loves sapphic-ly :/